Try to solve this conflict. When the other person screams at you by screaming back you are already complete the way as you are. The only problem is that there is something which is covering our view. Only love, only compassion, only understanding for the other one. Hello everyone and welcome back.
How do you restore self confidence, self love. How do you restore something that you maybe have the feeling at the moment is not there anymore? Now let’s look at something from a different perspective. There are two ways right now there are two ways. How we are trying to satisfy our hunger for whatever that hunger is.
And the fourth approach is that our life is constantly based on we need to do something in order to attain something. First we need to do something in order to attain something. But in the moment of doing you are constantly already in a state of lack. The complex behavior, everything, the soul, the words, the actions, oftentimes they are coming out from the sense of something is lacking. That’s why I need to do in order to get so constantly, day in, day out we wake up and always having this feeling of lack, something is lacking.
So this is the first approach. If you are constantly in the state of lack, well then you will always need a substitute. You will always look for something in order to fill this hole and in order to fill this gap. And then as another approach there is nothing missing. In the other approach it is said that you are already complete the way as you are.
You are exactly complete the way how you are. The only problem is that there is something which is lying, which is covering our view, which is covering our eyes, which is covering ourselves. And that’s why we cannot see ourselves. We are in the impression that we are not complete. Now just as an example, there is a saying that in this world hate has never defeated hate.
I don’t know if you need to believe this or not. So next time wherever you are having a conflict with someone, try to solve this conflict. When the other person screams at you by screaming back, every time somebody like punch you try to bring some peace into the situation by punching back somebody in your relationship is very very aggressive towards you and you try to solve the problem by being aggressive back. Now the question is is it going to work? And here the Buddhist teachings for example say it’s not going to work because hate does never defeat hate, only love, only compassion, only understanding for the other one can solve the issue.
That’s the solution. And now for some people all of this maybe sounds a little bit and whatever here, whatever there, it’s too philosophical. We are living in the world of conflict. Well if we are living in the world of conflict and you constantly have this in your mind then it is no wonder that we are living and that it is expressing itself in such a way. We cannot expect from other people.
They should change. But we don’t change.